The first main Buddhist bullet point is the Four Noble Truths. Life is suffering and all that. Most of what has been written about this can be written off as mis-translations and misunderstandings. It doesn't mean that you have to put up with any sort of suffering just because it says so. Shit happens and you get over it. Life is suffering just means that the world isn't quite how we want it and we should accept that. Suffering really just boils down to wishing something had or hadn't happened in the past or pinning too much on what may happen in the future.
If you got dumped at college and still sit around thinking about it, then that is probably not going to bring them back. Evaluate what you did and how you handled the situation and move on. Just mak sure you don't make the same mistakes twice. Similarly if you are hard up and need some money, then doing the lottery is not really going to solve your problems. If you keep telling yourself that you only need one more lucky break then you could spend the rest of your life waiting for that break. You could just make a plan how to earn/save the money you need. In both cases what happens next is up to you.
I have never been one for nostalgia so half of that is easy. What has happened has happened. It is history, so there is nothing you can do to change it. There are things I have said and done that I wish I hadn't but what's done is done. People have reasons for doing things and that's fine. The future is a different matter. There are things that i would like to do with regard to an imaginary five year plan I have but I know I have to work towards that. Each thing I do now is a step towards where I want to be.
I know people who are hung up on the past and wish something had never happened or something had never changed. Well, what can you do? Nothing. Those people will just have to live with those feelings of regret for the rest of their lives, or until they accept it. Similarly, People think "I am not happy now as I don't have X". Well, there is no guarantee that getting X will actually make you happy. X might turn out to be the wrong colour or the wrong shape or the wrong person. Then you are back to square one. There is no harm wanting things, just don't get hung up on it.
If you got dumped at college and still sit around thinking about it, then that is probably not going to bring them back. Evaluate what you did and how you handled the situation and move on. Just mak sure you don't make the same mistakes twice. Similarly if you are hard up and need some money, then doing the lottery is not really going to solve your problems. If you keep telling yourself that you only need one more lucky break then you could spend the rest of your life waiting for that break. You could just make a plan how to earn/save the money you need. In both cases what happens next is up to you.
I have never been one for nostalgia so half of that is easy. What has happened has happened. It is history, so there is nothing you can do to change it. There are things I have said and done that I wish I hadn't but what's done is done. People have reasons for doing things and that's fine. The future is a different matter. There are things that i would like to do with regard to an imaginary five year plan I have but I know I have to work towards that. Each thing I do now is a step towards where I want to be.
I know people who are hung up on the past and wish something had never happened or something had never changed. Well, what can you do? Nothing. Those people will just have to live with those feelings of regret for the rest of their lives, or until they accept it. Similarly, People think "I am not happy now as I don't have X". Well, there is no guarantee that getting X will actually make you happy. X might turn out to be the wrong colour or the wrong shape or the wrong person. Then you are back to square one. There is no harm wanting things, just don't get hung up on it.
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